Day 7 - January 31, 2016

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The first time I saw this saying I was astonished. I let the words sink in and pondered their meaning for several hours. (I think and process very slowly, especially things I find to be "life changing.") Once I had a full appreciation of the saying, I felt as though a whole new world had opened up to me, a world of forgiveness. I considered all the people in my life that had betrayed me and caused pain, for who I was still holding anger, and I asked myself if I was drinking poison, with my thoughts or actions.

In the past, I have held resentment and grudges against those whom I felt had “done me wrong,” and I realized that they had already forgotten about whatever it was they had done to cause me pain and moved on with their lives while I was still carrying an enormous burden. The only person continuing to suffer for their transgressions was me; hadn’t I suffered enough when they hurt me? When you let go of anger, you can also release the pain and burden.

I will be honest and admit that several people have told that I am far too forgiving, and I let people walk all over me. Perhaps, but in my defense, it is because I believe that some people deserve a second chance. But here's the thing, I get to make that choice, I decide what I feel is worthy of my forgiveness and what is not. If it is not something that I can get over then I will release the person from my life, forgive myself, accept the situation for what it is, and most importantly, I let go of the anger.

Bottom line, people will say or do things that hurt you, and regardless of their intentions, the pain is the same. At that moment you have a choice, you can be a victim, a survivor, or a thriver. If you have any hope of being a survivor, and I pray you choose to be a thriver, they both start with letting go of the anger, and forgiveness; forgiving the person or forgiving yourself.

Love and Light,
~ Heather